It’s that time of year when students and parents are chewing their nails and rubbing their hands while waiting for the college early decision announcements. For some it is a celebratory time, but for parents of college students with ADHD or Executive Functioning Disorder, the admissions process can be overwhelming. It’s natural to worry that missed opportunities, imperfect grades, or delayed responses might overshadow your child’s true potential. However, the reality is that colleges are not looking for flawless applicants—they are seeking authentic individuals with the passion, resilience, and drive to succeed. While today’s students face increasing pressures, such as academic expectations, social stress, and time management challenges, colleges recognize the unique value that a student with ADHD can bring. Your child’s story, strengths, and distinct attributes are what truly matter. By fostering qualities like curiosity, creativity, emotional awareness, and resilience, you can help them shine in ways that go far beyond traditional academic success. Remember this acronym when you feel defeated:
CARE Curiosity | Awareness | Resilience | Empowerment
Stay Curious!
Curiosity is a driving force behind meaningful learning, and it’s often a critical ingredient for success in college and beyond. However, for students with ADHD, the pressure to conform to rigid academic standards can make it difficult to stay focused or remain engaged. Colleges value students who show passion and commitment—not only to academics but to life in general. Encouraging your child to explore areas that truly captivate them—whether it’s technology, art, or community projects—can help them develop a love for learning, free from the constraints of conventional expectations.
Fostering Emotional Awareness
For children with ADHD, emotional awareness can often be an area of challenge, and the pressure of college life can exacerbate these struggles. Empathy, adaptability, and teamwork are critical skills for success, but students with ADHD may feel overwhelmed by social and academic pressures. The intense need to manage multiple responsibilities can lead to stress, anxiety, and emotional burnout. Intentional guidance and reflective conversations can help your child build these emotional skills and develop the resilience needed to navigate the social and emotional complexities of college life.
- Resilience: Highlight their unique qualities: Encourage your child to lean into the activities or causes that genuinely excite them, whether it’s coaching others, the arts, volunteering with the elderly, or flying drones; whatever it may be, they’ve overcome obstacles to find out what makes them unique.
- Emphasize Empowerment about individuality: A genuine, heartfelt story is often more impactful than an overly polished résumé. Encourage them to be honest about their journey, highlighting the skills they’ve developed and the personal growth they’ve experienced.
By supporting your child in crafting an authentic narrative, you not only help them present a compelling application, but you also empower them to embrace their true identity and value.
Focusing on Long-Term Goals and Wellness
The college admissions process is just one part of your child’s journey. For students with ADHD or executive functioning challenges, the personal skills they develop—such as resilience, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence—are just as important as the academic achievements they pursue. It’s essential to remind both yourself and your child that success isn’t just about getting into a particular school; it’s about cultivating a meaningful, fulfilling life.
CARE Curiosity | Awareness | Resilience | Empowerment
